He will take your life’s circumstances; your hurts; your disappointments; your joys… and He will take your life-span and your life-situation to complete His good work in you – and you know what – He will do the same for me.
I don’t think there is anything more destructive to the human soul than disinterest. I don’t think anything hurts a human heart more than a ‘couldn’t care less’ attitude. This grieved the Lord so deeply as He knocked Laodicea’s door.
I can choose to allow my faith to be exercised or not. I can choose to trust His Word or blame Him for life’s difficult circumstances. I can choose to take responsibility for my action, or blame God for my choices. I can choose to accept His ‘boot-camp‘ training – or kick against the pricks. I can invite Him to examine my inner-self so as to identify areas that need His scalpel. I can further invite Him to root out all areas within me that are displeasing to Him. I can permit Him to identify blockages in me, that prevent me from living as He wills – and I can allow Him to search deep within – to heal all hurts that I hide from others. I can choose to admit my mistakes – or I can blame my shortcomings on others – or even on God.
You know, it is so easy to talk about love, to pretend to love, to use the language of love, to sing hymns about love, and it can all be sentimental; perhaps we all know people who have told us that they love us, but very often they are the very people who have hurt us most.
Though designed to ‘protect’ our heart from being hurt again by fellow men, strongholds are the crafty tool that the enemy uses to crush our trust in God.
Help and healing comes from total surrender of your entire being to the Lord..surrender of all and everything in your life – past present and future..surrender of all past, present and future hurt, guilt, pain, fear, doubt and worry..
We suffer in many ways:- pain, wounds, hurts, sickness, disappointments and more pain.
Weariness of body, sickness of mind, frustration of the soul and hurt to the heart fuse together, and all combine to draw our attention and focus on self – self-interest, self-pity, self indulgence – just self! Worries, angers, anxieties, vexations, disappointments and busyness of life…unite..
These opening words of the passionate novel “Rebecca” by Daphne du Maurier, and they are well rehearsed in the ears of literary lovers. We all have many ‘Last Nights’. Times of past hurt – times of disappointments: times we call “Last Night”. Times of past joy – times of delights – times we call “Last Night”. “Last Nights” in childhood. “Last Nights” in adulthood. “Last Nights” in relationships – always moving forward to the next joyful or disappointing, “Last Night.”
Sometimes a “Last Night” is a memory of utter bliss – of precious joy, but more often those memorable “Last Nights” …are times of anguished hurt..
To be willing to accept crucifixion with Christ, to leave all yourself, your plans and your longings, your abilities and your possessions, all of them at the Cross, so that you only trust and love and live for the Lord Jesus, hurts a great deal.
Joys and Pain
When grief strikes – I pour out my hurt to Him. When joy fills my life – I thank Him for His blessings. When difficulties surface – I cast them on the Lord as instructed. When others are in distress – I lift them up into His heavenly keeping.
In a long distance race it is not the start that hurts, nor even the steady pace of the long stretch. It is as the finishing post is approached and comes into view.. That heart – nerves – courage and muscles are strained.. Strained, almost to breaking point.. Strained almost beyond human endurance.
It is so easy to allow unworthy considerations to quench brotherly love, to be clogged up with resentment or to be wrongly influenced by our susceptibilities or hurt feelings.... We have to be active in positive cultivation of fellowship.
Are we who have been so beautifully and so freely forgiven by the Lord – are we unwilling to forgive the ones that have wounded and hurt us so much?
He is the One that can enable us to forgive those that wound and hurt and betray us –
Equally harmful to the soul is the pretence that we have forgiven another.. when in fact we have only buried the pain in the depths of our being.. allowing it to resurface periodically to our own harm and often to the hurt of others – hiding behind a mask of normality while unforgiveness burns in our soul.
Everything of sin results in misery, depression, hurt, pain and disappointment, while all that comes from God is good, pure, holy, just, gracious and loving. This truth permeates the warp and weft of scripture… from beginning to end. “If our faith were but more simple, we would take Him at His Word..”
and scripture shows the pernicious stream that flows from fear and its tributaries.. worry, anger, irritation, sickness, disappointment, hurt, pain..
On a human level our love for another may be real.. so that my plans and my purposes be carried out and fulfilled for my benefit!! But on Christ’s plane His love may at first hurt and wound and sting and lacerate.. in order that HIS best plans and purposes are fulfilled for your ultimate good.
He prayed for those that despised and rejected Him. He prayed for those that hurt and abused Him. He prayed for those that grieved and murdered Him – and He loved those that loved Him not.
Prayer of Forgiveness
We too should pray for those that despise and reject us. We too should pray for those that hurt and abuse us. We too should pray for those that grieve and harm us – and we too should love as He loved. This is not mere choice.
Illustration of Forgiveness
There are some fragrant trees that bathe a sweet perfume… on the very axe that strikes them, and we too should show only sweet tender forgiving love, to those that hurt or harm us – to those that grieve or pain us. Father forgive them – for they don’t know what they are doing.
And in His love and mercy, He will take each painful hurt and every throbbing heart – and pour in His healing oil and His soothing balm.
There is only one answer when faced with the troubles of life and His name is Jesus – and this He promised: I, if I am lifted up, will draw all men and women to Me to save and forgive and to heal the hurt.
We are told in this verse how to achieve this very thing.. to wait, to be silent and to be watchful unto God – and to allow Him to examine our hearts and our soul. To be prepared to discover areas within our soul (our life) that hurt or grieve Him, and permit Him to root out the puss within and to fill that empty space with Himself . Search me O God and know my heart. Test me and know my thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends You. Psalm 139:3. My soul wait though only upon God. Psalm 62:5
“I promise I’ll take you to the park tomorrow,” and then tomorrow comes and goes. “I’ll always be there for you, no matter,” then circumstances, feelings or life changes. How quick we are to believe that promise. How easy it is to break our word. How desperately hurt we feel.
It was then and only then – after what seems like a lifetime of unendurable hurt, that Job was enabled to ‘see‘ God in the only way that God will accept… where self-worth, self-satisfaction, and self-help are of no effect to God – where self-righteousness gives way to Christ-righteousness.
Today is my mother’s birthday. Her diaries catalogue showers of blessings amidst a mountain of difficulties. Today is my daughter’s wedding anniversary – her life also is peppered with deep hurts and trial and a cascade of Gods graces. My times also have had its deep pains and great joys and I am sure yours has too. Indeed, I know of no-one who has not been deeply affected by this world of sin.
But most think that their hurt and their disappointments are greater than most, and many, like Demas and Orphah turn back to the world. But this is God’s take on that issue: there hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will NOT suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the trial also make a way to escape that ye may be able to bear it. 1Cor.13:10
For just as a gentle, controlled, thoughtful or caring word can calm the troubled breast, bring hope to the hopeless, healing to the injured or grace to an offender so a harsh, hateful, cruel or careless comment can as easily be used to wound or discourage, hurt or hinder, harm or handicap or speedily stir up strife and anger.
Indeed, we read in this precious verse that He has collected every single salty teardrop that has wet our lashes and recorded every single silent groan of our hurting heart - and He has placed each single tear in His bottle of remembrance and recorded each hurt in His book, because of His great love for each of His own.
He has given us many precious blessings, and has promised never to leave us nor forsake us, no matter how fiercely the bitter winds of trial batter our lives and irrespective of others who may have betrayed or hurt us.
Sometimes we can be so distressed or disappointed; so angry or worried; so hurt or fearful that we miss the incredible blessing that God has organised in our very midst.
Like these two men we too can become so distressed or disappointed; so angry or worried; so hurt or fearful by the circumstances of our own lives or the situation on the world scene, that we also miss the incredible blessing that God has organised in our very midst – for our eternal benefit and His greater glory.
And in this section he is seeking to comfort them in the pain they had to endure, and to re-establish their close communion and mutual love, by commending them for their changed behaviour, and empathising with the hurt and suffering they had endured.
He who overcomes will not be hurt by the second death.
No-one who believes on Christ will be hurt by the second death, not even one - because the second death is that terrible Lake of Fire, into which all the unbelievers, who have not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God, will one day be cast.
He continues to revive our fainting soul and vivifies our sagging spirit when we find ourselves to be wearied by the world's pressures or discover we are exhausted, hurt, troubled or simply worn down in this troublesome life.
Truth hurts, especially when we try to justify our sinful choices, but the Bible makes it clear that the heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked - and when we yield to temptation and then try to make excuses for our own sinful choices - our defence freezes on our lips.
Despite all the suffering, pain, hurt and distress that the prophet Jeremiah faced in life's school of affliction, the Lord was teaching him many lessons about the great faithfulness of the Lord and His never-failing mercies, which are new every morning.
Soon they will not hurt or destroy in all God’s holy mountain, for the earth will be full of the knowledge of the LORD, as the waters cover the sea, and the redeemed of Israel will walk there and the ransomed of the LORD will return from their exile.